I keep a running list of topics I would like to include here on the blog. One that I keep coming back to is addressing the Dads out there. (Don't feel too singled out Dad's, I'll have one for reluctant Mom's and difficult kiddos soon too.) I have had the pleasure to work with some of the most fantastic father's on the planet, but every once in a while, I hear from a Mom whose husband is, well, less than enthusiastic. A dad who doesn't want to participate in family photos for whatever reason. Maybe he's tired from work, there's a game he wants to watch, there are chores that need completing, he doesn't want to have to change out of sweatpants, he's worried about a child's behavior, or he just isn't interested. And I get it. Getting all cleaned up to drive your family to a photoshoot doesn't rank high on most people's weekend wish list. No matter how fun and relaxed I try to keep my family sessions, I know there are other things that you'd rather be doing. As I was talking to my husband about planning our own family photos, I realized he'd be a much better voice in this conversation. So this week I'd like to welcome my husband, Brooks as a guest blogger!
"I bet if you look through your family photos right now you will have hundreds of photos of you with your children. However, how many photos are there of your wife with your children? Even if, like me, you try to reciprocate being photographer, I'm sure you will find she takes more.
How many photos are there of just you and your wife together (and how many of those are random photos of the two of you at some wedding or other formal event)? Whether your wife would like photos to update frames in your home or just for the annual holiday card, I'm telling you, you will never regret having these photos.
Let your weekend to-do list slide for an afternoon and set the DVR to record whatever game you're missing. Remember that your wife has probably spent hours choosing clothes for herself and your children, so when she pulls out that shirt from the back of the closet that you doesn't quite fit, have patience helping her to choose another. Better yet, help get the children ready so that your wife can have some time to prep herself. It’s just like the labor and delivery room: she did all the work so now all you have to do is show up and be supportive. Don't forget to tell her how beautiful she looks...and duck if she throws something.
And don't worry about your children's behavior. We have three boys at home and Maggie has been a teacher for years so I can promise you that she's seen it all. When she tells you the only thing she can't photoshop is tears, believe her and relax knowing that she'll capture your family as you actually are (and she'll get a great photo for that holiday card too.) Maggie often suggests doing something fun after your shoot as a reward - and not just for the kids. You're already all dressed up, why not stop for dinner at your favorite restaurant or try a new one.
Remember: Smile, have fun, be proud." **
** Yes I will be printing this out so he can reread it the night before we do our own family photos ;)